How to make a decision




How do we make the right decision? Do you have a decision that you need to make, or are you thinking about trying something new? Are you considering letting go of a person in your life? Do you want to change the career that you're currently in?


Decision-making can be really hard if it's something that you're not comfortable doing. And for a very long time, it took me a while to learn that it's okay to say no to some things which ultimately meant yes to others, but it doesn't make it easy. Some decisions are easy though. But what about a tough one, such as if you're not sure if the relationship is right for you?


The four-step formula on how to make decisions


The Pros and the Cons


This is where you are going to gather all the information with your decisions to be made. This is the feeling stage. This is where you are really going to look at all the pros and all the cons in making this choice.


I was friends with someone for a very long time, and it got to the point of our relationship where we weren't working anymore. And this particular person was very toxic to me so I had to make a pros and cons list. This was more of an internal feeling. What does this person give me in my life? What doesn't this person do for me? Sometimes it's good to also put yourself in the perspective of the other person.


When you're in this moment of making a decision, you tend to think about the good times. Having a bit of a pros and cons list and really looking at your future helps to make that decision. Your pros and cons don't have to be so opposite. It can just be neutral, but you've still got to make a decision. You've really gotta sit with yourself and think what is more important right now in my life.


Consider the impact


What will be the impact? For example, with my friend, I got to the point where I had to let our friendship go. The impact of that means I don't get to talk to her. I don't get to go to coffees with her. I don't get to go for walks with her. I don't get to go shopping with her. I feel like I'm losing a soul. But the positive impact of that is it opens opportunities and space to meet new friends and new people. But most importantly, meeting myself, and becoming my own best friend at this moment, was a bigger impact on me. That was more powerful.


I knew in my heart that it was the way I have to go. It opened up space for me to get creative, for me to reassess the whole way of working online. I'm loving what I'm doing. I show up with more passion and purpose and that is where my business direction needed to go.


And that is my life right now. I'm choosing the path of least resistant and that was it for me. And that seemed more positive, that was the impact. I want you to consider the impact and weigh up the positive and negative impacts.



Make the decision.


When it came to my friend, it was one of the hardest things in my life. And it breaks my heart talking about it even today, but I can sit here and happily say, I'm so glad I made that decision. I became so confident in myself being alone. And the odd thing was when I made the decision, even though it was so hard, I felt really peaceful.


I had to make the decision to stop going over and over it, because I weighed up my pros, I considered the impact and I made the decision.


Choose some things that are fun and easy just to get your mindset into a habit. And then the decision becomes easier. And I want to say that if you are feeling this way right now, I understand how you are feeling.


I want you to know that you are so amazing. You're so beautiful. You're not alone. Please reach out to people that you trust and love. And if you feel like you don't have anyone, there is support online, please go seek help.


You have to take some time when making a decision. What was the perspective here? What was the lesson? What was the story? What happened? Now, I understand why I had to end my friendship with that someone because I have now made a couple of new beautiful friendships that were more aligned to me, more aligned to my mindset, more aligned to my energy and I was aligned to them. And I see that now and my expansion, my growth, my mind, and my happiness have evolved in such a short time.


Every day I am learning something new about myself and about them. And that is such a beautiful thing. So I can look back and say thank you for being a friend to me for all those years, someone is in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Now I have this amazing, beautiful community with hundreds and hundreds of women using my program. I look at that and say yes, that was the impact.

I feel I had to go through that to be the woman that I am today. I didn't know how to make money. I didn't know how to say no to people and set boundaries. Now, I will make my own decisions. I will make my own money. I will find out who I am. And I will have someone who truly loves me. And I got all that, but I really believe that I wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't go through that.


Evaluate the decision.


When you make a decision, you do not go back on that. Don't regret it. Life is always rolling. Life is always moving forward. It's all perspective. It's all how you see it. And I like to look at life as if it's working for me. It's scary when you don't know what the decision or the outcome is going to be.


I want you to evaluate the decision after it's been made. And you might even be thinking now, what are some decisions I've made in my life? I'm going to evaluate them now. And you know what? There might be decisions that you can say, I made the wrong choice, but that's never really the wrong choice. It all connects. It all makes sense.


That is how I make my decisions. I hope this is helpful for you to take that little step, and help guide you to make that decision or how to at least create a decision. Life is a little bit like a puzzle. The puzzle will eventually be completed.