Quality over Quantity
It's perfectly fine to have only a few selected close friends in your life. As you get older, you will realise the importance of true and genuine friendships.
Maybe you moved or everyone else moved away from your hometown.
Maybe your friends got married or started a family before you did so the timing of catching up has changed.
Maybe you don't connect with friends in the same way because habits and lifestyle changes have occurred.
Change is very normal and happens throughout life.
As life changes, people change.
We must be able to adapt, however, some of us struggle with change especially when you feel as if you have barley any friends anymore.
Having tons of friends doesn't mean much if they're not the kind of people who will stick around for life.
The Need For People
I used to be that girl who needed many people around me.
I depended on the constant love and reassurance, even if they were more toxic than kind. I would be so afraid of being alone that I would dim my light just to keep 'them' happy. I would fight for friendships and make sure that they were thriving! Even when they were not serving me, or I wasn't serving them anymore.
I felt the need to be constantly wanted.
It was very unhealthy, this is when I soon started practicing the art of Self-Love, which then came to the confidence of Self-Assurance.
By understanding both practices, I started to recognise and adopt important values for myself and for those that I now choose to be apart of my life.
These values are:
As you get older, you will respect yourself more and you will notice the behaviours of others around you that won't align with these values. You will start weeding out people that are bad for you and those that don't serve you in your life anymore.
Life is forever changing as do we.
What are your values?
Do you know your values?
Are your values the same as you place on those closest to you?
Really ask yourself these questions!
Once you do this and the weeding begins, you may panic because you start noticing you have little to possibly only yourself as a friend.
Your phone may not blow up as it used to, you might not get invited to events or social activities or maybe you might even feel as if no one is around anymore especially if your good friends are busy.
This is because you are getter older and wiser with your values.
You will realise that being popular becomes trivial if not comical!